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Baby Self Feeding – Time for Independence

Now that your 10-12-month-old is really getting the hang of feeding himself, keep offering him a wide variety of foods and textures to establish good, healthy eating habits.

5 mins to read Jan 29, 2021

Becoming an independent eater

At this age, it’s likely that your baby will be able to grasp and pick up small pieces of food. This finger-feeding stage is messy and fun! It is also a crucial part of developing his motor skills and increasing his confidence and independence. Eating food with your fingers seems easy to us as adults, but for a baby there are a lot of steps he will need to learn and practice. You may notice he is now reaching these stages:


Now… your baby is picking up small pieces of food.
Because… his ability to grip and to control his fingers is becoming more assured.
Help him by… providing appropriately sized and textured pieces of soft foods for him to practice picking up.


Now… your baby is lifting food to his mouth.
Because… your baby has enough hand-eye coordination to bring his hand to his mouth.
Help him by… showing him how you put food in your mouth.
Be a role model for your baby: take a bite of food from your plate, and then encourage him to copy you by taking a bite of food from his.


Now… your baby is able to release food from his hands into his mouth.
Because… he is beginning to better understand how to feed himself.

Help him byoffering small amounts of finger foods at a time. Wait until he chews and swallows what you have offered before giving him more.


Now… he is able to fit appropriate-sized bites into his small mouth.
Because… he is learning what fits into his mouth.
Help him by
offering bite-sized pieces of soft-cooked vegetables, such as carrots, or soft fruits, such as ripe banana pieces. Choose developmentally appropriate textures and foods that are easy to pick up, like well-cooked pasta pieces. Continue to avoid any large chunks of food, and watch out for those that may present a choking risk, such as whole grapes, hard chunks of uncooked vegetables, cherry tomatoes, apple chunks or slices, hot dogs, sausages, popcorn, chunks of peanut butter, whole nuts, seeds, raisins, and candies.


Tips for successful eating

All your baby’s senses are in gear to respond to the new textures, flavors, and smells that are coming his way every day. As he gets older, your baby will become more vocal in letting you know what he wants. He’s deciding how much he’ll eat while you decide what healthy foods to offer. Here are some pointers for ensuring mealtimes are pleasant and relaxed.

  • Sit down and eat with your baby at the table, and make his mealtime your family’s mealtime. Children should be seated and supervised when eating.
  • As your baby is still learning to manage more textures of foods, offer soft foods in small, diced pieces.
  • 10-12-month-old babies still have small tummies, so it’s best to offer three meals and two snacks a day.
  • Early on, your baby may begin improving his abilities to drink from a cup and handle a spoon. As he develops, he may be able to spoon-feed himself with a bit of help.
  • Keep offering a variety of foods to your baby. Eating a banana a day may be good, but eating a variety of fruits, like peaches, plums, cherries, and raspberries throughout the week is more fun! If your baby doesn’t seem keen on a certain fruit or vegetable, try offering it on another day. It may take as many as eight tries for babies to accept some new foods. As always, offer only one new food to your baby at a time so you can identify if he has any intolerances.


The birthday cake question

Your baby’s first birthday is fast approaching, something all the family is sure to be looking forward to. What a milestone, you’ve been parents for a year! Time goes so quickly. You may be planning a party for him and also be invited to other babies’ birthday parties or family gatherings. So now is a good time to consider the approach you will take to the sweets or cakes that are often served at these occasions.


Special occasion foods

Research in older children shows that the more parents strongly restrict what their children can eat (such as saying certain foods are never allowed), the more likely it is that their children will overindulge in the restricted foods when given the chance. Although there is no room in a baby’s healthy diet to include daily treats and desserts, exceptions may be made for special occasion foods.   


Many cultures associate certain foods with special occasions or holidays. It’s important to teach your baby that the foods offered at these festive events are not usually part of your everyday meals. These foods can be considered ‘special occasion foods’. By exposing your one-year-old baby to these types of foods in the context of celebrating, you let him know that food is part of your culture. Practice your responsive parenting feeding style by not pressuring him to eat special occasion foods. At the same time try to be relaxed about him having a taste, without praising him if he does decide to try some.


By letting him know, for instance, that birthday cake only appears when there is a birthday,

the message he receives is not one of total restriction of these types of special occasion foods, but of the link between food and family or cultural events.


Portion sizes

It’s easy to overestimate the amount of food you need to give your baby. Remember he still has a small tummy and his portions will be significantly smaller than those you give yourself. Always try to maximize the nutrient value of the food you offer.




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