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The dos and don’ts of responsive feeding

The ways you feed your baby are as important as what you feed her. Find out what to watch for, and what to do, when your baby starts eating complementary foods. Check how many of the following responsive-feeding approaches you use, each day, with your baby.

6 mins to read Jan 5, 2021

Do… feed your baby when she’s hungry

Look for signs she’s interested in food, such as opening her mouth and leaning towards the spoon you’re offering.


Don’t… keep going when she’s full

Put the spoon down when she shows you signs she’s full—this helps encourage good eating habits. She might tell you she’s full by shutting her mouth, turning her head away, or being easily distracted by other things.


Do… notice if she’s just playing

Babies explore things with their mouths. If she’s just putting the spoon into her mouth out of curiosity, as she does with toys, feeding time is probably over for now. Let her play with the spoon but put her food away.


Don’t… force her to finish the bowl

Most babies can regulate their own feeding, so don’t push her to finish her meal if she has lost interest.


Do… pack every spoonful with goodness

Babies’ tummies are tiny compared to ours, so make every mouthful count by offering nutrient-packed foods. At six to eight months of age, only around one third (about 200 calories) of your baby’s nutrition comes from complementary foods, with breast milk supplying the rest. Every spoonful should be a step towards teaching healthy-eating habits, with meals or snacks of pureed fruits, vegetables, meats, and grains. Your baby’s need for iron is especially important now. One recent publication showed that baby cereal was part of the diet of 75% of the six- to nine-month-old babies studied from the United States. Infant cereal was the biggest source of iron in their diet.


Don’t… add sugar or salt

Health professionals recommend that added sugars (sugars added during manufacture, by a cook, or by you), and sugars naturally found in syrups, fruit juices, and fruit juice concentrates, should count for no more than 10% of your baby’s calories from complementary foods. Check the label when you are shopping. Offer healthy selections which contain important nutrients. There is no room for ‘sugary’ foods and sugar-sweetened beverages.


Do… offer healthy foods at regular times

Offer healthy foods at regular meal and snack times, and let your baby decide how much, if any, she’ll eat. As long as you’re giving her some balanced choices, there’s nothing to worry about. Eventually she’ll settle into a pattern of regular daily meals and snacks.


Don’t… worry if she only eats a spoonful or two

When your baby starts to eat complementary foods, she may only want a tiny amount at a time. She’s still receiving most of her calories from breast milk.  And she needs time to learn how to eat from a spoon! Don’t pressure her to eat more. It’s perfectly normal for your baby’s appetite to change from day to day. Relax and go with it. “Pressuring a child to eat has been associated with a lower intake of healthy food and an overall fussiness about food,” explains Lisa Fries, PhD, Behavioral Scientist at Nestlé Research Center in Switzerland. “This pressure can make mealtimes stressful for your child and can create negative associations with the food you are offering. By keeping mealtimes relaxed, you increase the chances that she’ll try the food again next time.”


Do… gently persist with new foods

Continue to introduce a variety of fruits, vegetables, beans, meats, and grains even if you don’t get a positive reaction every time. Babies are born with a preference for sweet tastes, but that doesn’t mean sweet-tasting foods are the only foods they’ll enjoy.


Don’t… stop after one or two attempts

Your baby may need multiple ‘tastes’ (as many as eight tries, offered at different meals and on different days) of a new food as she learns to accept and like the flavor, so don’t give up. The more often you offer a new food, the more likely your little one will eventually enjoy it.


Do… pair new foods with old favorites

Try giving a food you know your baby enjoys alongside a new food. You might put a taste of both flavors on the same spoon to start with as a way to introduce the new food. Then, if it’s well received, offer the new food on its own.


Don’t… offer too many choices at one meal

Variety is important, but too many choices at one meal can overwhelm your new eater. Give her a chance to sample and accept new tastes gradually.


Do… feed her as much as she wants

Your baby will communicate with body language, facial expressions, and a wide open mouth when she is still hungry. Allow her to decide how much she wants to eat.


Don’t… only give her favorites

It may be tempting, but don’t forget your job is to offer your baby a choice of healthy foods. Your baby’s job is to decide how much to eat. If she’s hungry she’ll eat other foods after her favorites are gone.


Do… watch your baby’s expressions

Your baby’s facial expression may tell you a lot about what she’s thinking, but don’t be confused. A new food may evoke a surprise response from your baby, only because it is something she has not tasted before. This does not mean that she doesn’t like the food.  Remember, even foods that you think your baby does not prefer can become favorites with multiple tastes over several days or weeks. As always, pay attention to when your baby is showing you when she’s hungry and when she’s had enough, and follow her lead.


Don’t… reveal your own dislikes

If you’re offering your baby a food you’re not keen on, try not to let her know by scrunching up your face or holding your breath as she takes a bite. Just as you can read her face, she can read yours.





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